As the days approached for Mother's Day, I couldn't help but think that my mother's days will always look very different for me than most other mom's. Mother's Day will probably never be just about me for our children. Mother's day will be about "us". I will always be sharing the day with another mom who gave birth to one of my children.
Today, I'll be thankful. Thankful that another mom is out there hopefully celebrating this day as much as I am. Thankful that we get to celebrate over the same baby boy who brings both of us a lot of laughter. Thankful that she chose life for this baby and thankful that both of us have the opportunity to love him.
We've never met. We probably never will. Both of us have no idea who will keep this baby forever, but I hope we both have plans of respecting and loving each other and teaching "our" baby to do the same.
Happy Mother's Day to our foster baby's Birth Mom. I know you will probably never read this, but I hope this day brings you a lot of joy and I hope your role as a mom does not go unnoticed today. Thank you for choosing life for this little man. Thank you for enduring a hard labor to bring him into this world. I promise you that as long as he is in this house, we will teach him to love, honor, & respect you. You have given him the most precious gift any mother could give-the gift of life. Because of that, our family is celebrating you today too!
17 comments:
Thank you!!!! How sweet you are. What a blessing to hear that about birthmothers :)
I couldn't find a contact email, so I thought I'd comment here. Just saw your post on Money Saving Mom ... WOW!
Also, I live in Pittsburgh, but only for another week. We are about to move to Indianapolis to be closer to family.
Hope you are enjoying live in the 'Burgh! It's an incredible city :)
Found your blog off Money Saving Mom.
How well I can relate to the birth mom thing. We have three children brought home from Russia (no biological) and a holiday never passes without me thinking about them. We'll never meet face to face, but I hope they can feel how very much we love them!
Blessings~
I found your blog via Money Saving Mom. I also grew up in Lancaster County and now live in Pittsburgh...and I was scrolling through your site and noticed Joel is from Lititz, which is funny because I lived in Brunnerville. Small world! Thanks for your post.
Also found your blog via MSM. We have a lot in common :) Congrats on your sweet little boy.
Hello, I just found your blog through Money Saving Mom.
You are incredible, to be so sweet toward your son's birth mother! But then, you also have the blessing of him being so small, he probably won't remember any abuse or neglect (if there was any). We have three foster sons whom we absolutely want to adopt but cannot yet due to our financial situation; quite often I feel gratitude toward their birth mother for letting our sons live, but our oldest has told us so much about her that it is sometimes hard not to hate her. :( I keep praying that she would have peace of mind.
Can you share a little bit more about your son, like how old is he and suchlike things? When will you know if he can stay forever?
Sorry about bad English, this is not my first language.
Blessings...
I also found you through MSM and love your DIY projects. The thrift store finds are beautiful. Yard sales are another great place to find bargains.
What a sweet blessing to the birth mothers. I just stumbled on your blog through Money Saving Mom-your testimony was a great source of encouragement!
Is there a way to subscribe to your blog via email? I would really like to. Thanks
it's so neat to see all these Pittsburgh moms connecting thru MSM! love this post as we pursue adoption in the next few years. I run a mom's group here in the 'Burgh if you're ever interested in joining us - http://momspotpgh.blogspot.com/.
blessings!
I'm suprised you have never met the birth mother! I work for a foster care/adoption agency and we strongly encourage our foster parents and birth parents to meet, even if it is a hand shake. They are not bad people, they are not monsters, they have just messed up. They are human. I hope you get the chance to meet his mom, so one day if you do end up adopting him you can say, "you have your mother's eyes" or something else that will make him feel good about his birth family!
our agency supports meeting birth parents as well, but based on the situation, they're advising us not to....we'd love to meet the birth parents if the situation was different, but are trusting our agency and the attorney's advice right now. I was sad that this case did not allow us to meet them, but maybe one day!
I do understand. I know that it is hard for you to be in a position like that! I wish you well on your journey as foster parents! It is so rewarding and you are doing a job that most of us weould never consider doing!
Yes, yes another MSM discovery. I to noticed the Lititz thing (living in Lancaster) and loved the pictures from the park! A friend of mine got married there and I love going to watch the ducks...talk about our cheap date nights :-) Blessings to you both!
I know this is not relevant to this post, but congrats on the money saving mom link and the traffic it garnered for you. That is really nice exposure
I too came upon your blog through MSM. And I too am a foster mom who felt a bit odd on mother's day. Last year we had a 17 year old teen, whose mother I met and knew that she was really his mom, while he was with us just for a while and I could never ever come close to replacing her. This year is different with two littles and people wishing me a "happy mother's day". I felt a bit like a fraud ... but I did get roses out of it. There was a bit of a selfish thought when the older one came home from preschool with a craft he made for mother's day. Though I was tempted to keep it, I knew the right thing to do was to send it on and just enjoy the time I had with him that day and make more memories. It was harder than I thought.
Now, off to check out more of your blog. Oh, and keep up the good work. It took us till I was 29 to be completely debt free, but wow is it worth the extra few years of extra conscious frugality to get there.
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